MOTIVATE Generation Dad
Lucille Ball was the first lady of American comedy. Some time before her death she did an interview. The interviewer asked, “Lucille, you’ve lived a long time on this earth and you are a wise person. What’s happened to our country? What’s wrong with our children? Why are our families falling apart? What’s missing?”
Lucy’s startling yet matter-of-fact reply came quickly. “Papa’s missing. Things are falling apart because Papa’s gone. If Papa were here, he would fix it.”
Fathers are an important fabric of the family. This is true of previous generations and regardless what media, culture or anyone else says it is true of current generations as well. The soul of our nation is in crisis because men are absent and have withdrawn from their responsibility in society, in church and most importantly, at home.
- 1 out of 4 American infants has no father to welcome them at birth
- Only 41% of children will grow up in a 2-parent family
- Children think divorce & separation are a normal part of family life
- Lack of a father has a profound impact on children and society as whole.
A father provides 3 examples
Fathers provide an example of Manhood.
The world is confused about what it means to be a man. Apart from body parts we can hardly explain who a man is, what he should do and where does man find his identity.
Why it’s great to be male:
- A 5-day trip requires only one suitcase.
- We can open all our own jars.
- We can go to the bathroom without a support group.
- We can leave a motel bed unmade.
- We can kill our own food.
- We are totally unable to see wrinkles in our clothes.
- When guys forget to invite us somewhere they still are friends.
- We can sit quietly and watch a game with a friend for hours without thinking, “He must be mad at me.”
- We can drop by to see a friend without having to bring a little gift.
- Your pals will never trap you with: “So, notice anything different?”
Media roles of men portray males to be apathetic, ignorant fools. Yet, God honors manhood by becoming one. In a sense, Jesus is a prototype on what it means to be a man.
- Jesus had a job project or mission to accomplish [HERO]
“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” Luke 19:10
- Jesus had a group to lead
“Come follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.” Mark 1:17
- Jesus had an appetite to satisfy
“My food is to do the will of him who sent me…” John 4:34
- Jesus had a bride to love
Revelation 19:7, Ephesians 5:32, etc.
– Men must find identity in the Supreme Man – Jesus Christ
– Men must find purpose from the Supreme Man – Jesus Christ
– Women can elevate manhood in conversation and in choosing of good and godly husbands. When expectation quality raises so will the selection.
Fathers provide an example of Attendance.
Families need unity. This includes dad and mom as well as unity among siblings and other family members. It is a documented fact that the presence of each parent is essential in the healthy development (physical, emotional and spiritual) of children.
A father named Lionel wrote a book about his son named Jeffrey called, “A Father’s Story.”
- The book describes life of a father, wife and son.
- A picture appears every 30 pages or so:
- Jeffrey as a toddler, giggling in father’s arms
- Jeffrey age 4 playing in yard at grandparents
- Jeffrey & friend Lee dressed up for Halloween
- Story details a busy father, lonely wife and attention-starved son
- Lionel writes: “And so I wasn’t there to see him as he began to sink into himself. I wasn’t there to sense, even if I could have sensed it, that he might be drifting toward that unimaginable realm of fantasy and isolation that it would take nearly thirty years to recognize.”
- Lionel’s son was Jeffrey Dahmer: the man convicted and sent to prison in Milwaukee in 1992 for murdering and dismembering 17 people.
Men, to what are you giving yourself (time, energy)? You must evaluate your life in light of the big picture of eternity and ask for what do you want to be remembered?
Proverbs 17:6 “Children’s children are the crown of old men, and the glory of children is their father.”
Crown = honor, achievement, legacy
Glory = wonder, delight, admiration, able to boast
Families (wives & children) want to boast of their father!
Wives & Children spell love T – I – M – E
Think Daily, Weekly, and Annually.
Fathers provide an example of being Near God.
Fathers are an example of God to their wives and to their children when they are near Him themselves. God is known as a Father to those who call upon His name to be saved. He is generous to share this name with men as a Father/Daddy. Therefore, wives and children look to their husband and daddy to live an accurate picture of the Supreme Father-Daddy.
Psalm 103:13 “As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him”
Likewise, husbands are called to love families as Christ.
Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”
Fathers model the relationship God has with the church
Love through sacrifice
Lead through spiritual growth
What are you communicating about God through your marriage & fatherhood?
µ But what about the father who never was? Is that wife forever removed from God? Are those children abandoned?
Psalm 27:10 “Though father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”
µ Who is your father? Who are you looking to for example and guidance? God is a Father who is trustworthy and loving.
 “Where’s Dad?: A Call for Father’s with the Spirit of Elijah” by Weldon Hardenbrook, p.378, found in Recovering Biblical Manhood & Womanhood.
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