Why parents must discipline their children?
- Parents must discipline their child for the sake of the child.
Proverbs 5:11-12 “[lest] at the end of your life you groan when your flesh and body are consumed and you say, ‘How I hated discipline and my heart despised reproof!
Proverbs 5:23 “He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led astray.”
Proverbs 19:18 “Discipline your son for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.”
Proverbs 19:26 “He who does violence to his father and chases away his mother is a son who brings shame and reproach.”
Proverbs 20:20 “If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness.”
Proverbs 23:14 “If you [discipline your child], you will save his soul from Sheol.”
cf Speaking of Adonijah’s arrogance to assume kingship 1Kings 1:6 “His father [David] had never at any time displeased him by asking, “Why have you done thus and so?”
Hebrews 12:10b, 11b “God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness… [discipline] produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
- Parents must discipline their child for their own parental sake.
Proverbs 29:17 “Discipline your son and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.”
Proverbs 10:1/15:20 “A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.”
*Note: This does not mean that if child is good it’s due to Dad, if child bad it’s Mom’s fault!
Proverbs 17:21 “He who sires a fool gets himself sorrow, the father of a fool has no joy.”
Proverbs 17:25/19:13a “A foolish son is grief to his father, and bitterness to her who bore him.”
Proverbs 23:24-25 “The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him. Let your father and mother be glad; let her who bore you rejoice.”
Proverbs 29:3 “He who loves wisdom makes his father glad, but a companion of prostitutes squanders wealth.”
Proverbs 31:28 “Her children rise up and call her blessed…”
- Parents must discipline their child for the sake of neighborly love to others.
Proverbs 3:29-30 “Do not plan evil against your neighbor who dwells trustingly beside you. Do not contend with a man for no reason when he has done you no harm.” cf. Prov 11:9, 11:12, 24:28, 25:9, 25:18, 26:19, 27:10
Proverbs 5:13-14 “[The child says,] I did not listen to the voice of my teachers or incline my ear to my instructors. I am at the brink of utter ruin in the assembled congregation.” Forces neighbors/community to bring judgment.
Proverbs 6:29 “he who [steals] neighbors wife [will not go unpunished]
Proverbs 12:26 “One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
Proverbs 17:12 “Better to meet a bear robbed of his cubs than a fool in his folly.”
- Parents must discipline for God’s sake.
Proverbs 5:21 “For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the Lord and he ponders all his paths.”
Proverbs 21:2 “Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the heart.”
Proverbs 28:14 “Blessed is the one who fears the Lord always but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity.”