Growing up with my sister was an interesting time. As a young boy I was involved with the typical activities and items of every boy – matchbox cars, G.I. Joe men, Atari on a black & white television set, and of course there were lots of sports and games. I loved to be outside playing football, baseball, basketball, kickball or any other game that involved lots of competition. My sister on the other hand liked typical things of girlhood – dolls, books, kitchen set to play cook food and various other things. However, there was one aspect that became ironic between the two of us as a boy and a girl. I liked to be clean and avoid messiness and she liked to sit outside on the ground and eat dirt, literally! Gross-ossa!
Many people do not enjoy being messy. They appreciate things to be organized and in their proper place (and dirt’s proper place is not in the mouth!). Whereas others thrive on spontaneity and disorder and life would not be any fun if there were not stained boxers and socks lining the hallway to direct a path to the bedroom J. Of course this is a bit of a sarcastic introduction to say that people and relationships are always a work in progress because relationships are filled with the lives of a sin-tainted world. Every person struggles with the reality of conflict, heartbreak, emotional scars and issues of forgiveness.
The issue for young people is how to be the right person while you are searching for the right person. Dating, courting, going out, girl and boy friends – whatever name it is given it is still a major issue among teens and singles. The problem comes when the chase becomes more important than character. To state it an old-fashion way, “you can’t put the cart before the horse”. Young people must focus on their own heart and identity to become a healthy, whole person – I call this becoming a HGG: Hot Godly Guy/Girl.
What if I’m not a HGG? Proverbs 4:23; 1 Kings 10:23 – 11:13
Solomon was a man who had it all. He had wealth, fame, fortune, the pleasures of entertainment and relationships yet when reflecting on his life he viewed it all as “…meaningless, Even more, for a time, Solomon had the hand of God’s favor in his life. It was in his heart to be a HGG, that was his father’s wishes as well as his personal intention. However, becoming a HGG is more than just wishes and intentions. It occurs through deliberate and specific choices at every layer of life. Solomon found this out very well through the challenge of character.
The reason Solomon struggled to be a HGG is found in something he wrote: Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else [with all diligence], guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
He discovered that life has multiple distractions and if we allow them, they will take over your life. The Bible passage 1 Kings 10:23 – 11:13 describes Solomon’s slippery slide of faith and integrity. The primary reason for his slide was relationships with the opposite gender. Solomon loved many foreign (idolatrous) women who turned his heart away from the one true God. He failed to guard his heart.
It is easy to get distracted from life’s purpose and goals and ultimately from God. The Bible calls us to guard our heart and lives diligently from being distracted or diverted away from the main focus of your faith in Jesus. An overview of these Scriptures are as follows: “have no other gods before me” (Ex 20:3), “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength” (Deut 6:5), “choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve… but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord” (Josh 24:15), “if my people who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land” (2 Chron 7:14), “seek first his kingdom and his righteousness…” (Matt 6:33), “count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus” (Rom 6:11), “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me” (Gal 2:20), “For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain” (Php 1:21), “I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death” (Php 3:10), “all things were created by him and for him” (Col 1:16b), “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God” (Col 3:1-3), “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light” (1 Peter 1:8),
In summary, God calls us to seek Him and make Him first priority of our lives. In doing so we are becoming what I call a HGG. But what if you are like Solomon? What if you have slipped from being a HGG? By responding to these 2 questions you will be able to consider if you are becoming a HGG?
1) What is your standard for “Hot”? Many people would assume to be a HGG that you have to follow the same standards of appearance as the world. This is not necessarily so. Though looks and appearance are important in relationships and self-image they are not primary. One’s “hotness” is truly defined by Scripture not your shape; your faith and not your figure. In other words, your character overrules your image.
2) Who has your heart? This question often leads you to think relationally with the notion of love and romance. However, it’s really a question of authority in your life. Who is the biggest influence in your life? The answer to this question reveals what is most important to you and what your god is.
Your heart should not be solely accessible by a key pad or internet connection. Solomon reminds us to guard our hearts with all diligence because it will determine the course and direction of your life. This includes not just who you are and where you go but how you feel about life and self. It’s physical, spiritual, emotional – it’s everything!
God wants your heart that you might not chase after fleeting romance but the eternal God, Jesus Christ. “Those who cling to worthless idols forfeit the grace that could be theirs” (Jonah 2:8).